so I do not celebrate valentines day. I don't participate because I do not want to add confusion to my life. I think that living in reality is a valuable thing. Valentines day is apex of the fantasy world type romance that our society sets us up to expect as a 'norm' in our world. And inevitably when we don't reach the heights of romance we are disapointed. I choose to live in the world of reality where i know that my life is not a romantic comedy just as much as I don't expect to win the next lotto. Living in reality avoids a life of heart break. That is not to say that i don't enjoy love and romance, it is just that I think we need to change our definition of what romance is from what society says it is to what fits into your reality. Love and romance that is rooted in the reality of our existance is so much more full of beauty and true depth than trying to live out unrelistic expections of what it 'should' or 'ought' to be. Just as i can not let the world around me dictate to be my being or my personhood or the value and worth of those things I can not expect society to dictate to me what i ought to feel is romance and the substance of love and how that ought to be instituted in my life.
on the other hand Jeremy is relived that he does not have to by $200 roses.
the funny thing is that when i tell Jeremy this stuff about how i really feel about valentines day and other stuff like this he looks at me as if he couldn't get enough of me and as if i am the most amazing girl in the entire world and i know that i am really really really loved. That means so much more to me to know that i am really loved for my convictions and personhood than it would to get chocolate and flowers.
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sniff. that's beautiful!
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